"Wrong ideas we’ve been taught to believe about ourselves need to be removed and replaced by Truth lest we never know what it means to feel whole. One of the most sacred of all human qualities is The Quality of Wholeness, it means undamaged, uninjured, unharmed, unbroken, unhurt, unwounded, unbruised & restored. Oh how I love that quality and all that it implies! The idea that regardless of how traumatic the ride’s been there is that part of us that was not harmed damaged wounded or bruised - our Wholeness"- Michael Cole
The truth is that this has been a very trying month for me. I am not sure what has been the most hurtful thing about it but there have been a lot of wake up calls. I know I am not perfect and I am not for some people but it's really hard losing people that are close to you. I know there are things about me that need to change but then there are things I am not willing to change or modify.
If I am constantly apologizing for who I am does that make me ashamed of who I am? What do I really have to be ashamed of? I am not the daughter my parents thought I would be, not the friend that some people around me want me to be, not the sibling I should probably be but I am who I am!
So in this month alone, My family originally planned Thanksgiving without me and to which my Mom said "Heather we can't plan Thanksgiving around you, because it's just you!" Really Mother???? I wasn't aware that I am alone, could you please remind me one more time? What a terrible and hurtful thing to say to your daughter. It made me feel like I don't matter because I don't have a significant other or children.
Next: On the day that I had been planning for 2 months for my Birthday Party, My best friend decides to tell me that I treat her like a doormat in the salon, in front of co-workers and clients.So I canceled my Birthday party and just went out with my friend Pasha instead. I still have no idea where the comment came from and why she decided that that was a good time to say it. And the reason why I don't know is because I am yet to talk to her. I sent her an apology and her retort was to list other times of when I had been a shitty friend. Mind you, I had no idea she was holding all this arsenal in her back pocket. I work with her in the salon so it has made things around there really awkward.
The night I went out for my birthday, I started talking to this guy and he seemed like a really great guy. So of course, when I meet someone I think is great, I stalk them on all forms of social media. What I discovered when I was looking through his pictures was that his sister is dating a guy that hit on me this summer and that still texts me from time to time. So instead of hiding it, I decided to tell him just in case, the other guy and I would ever be in the same room. This completely back fired on me and instead of him appreciating my honesty, he decided to call me a hoe who lacked self-respect. The strange thing is he continued to show up at my apartment 3 weekends in a row. This last weekend I told him to delete my number and that we aren't friends never will be.
Last weekend was our work Christmas party, I was originally suppose to go with my best friend but as you can tell from above, that didn't happen. So I decided to bring my friend Vodka. She was a very loving date for me but I guess not so much for others. I apparently offended one of my other co-workers that I was pretty close with for calling her dramatic and jokingly mocking how she gets when she is working at the salon and it is just the slightest bit stressful. Later that night, I received a text that said "I understand now why you lose friends all the time, because you just lost another." I had no idea what the hell she was talking about and why it offended her so much but she still hasn't talked to me.
On top of this, my former best friend planned an ugly Christmas party for this weekend. It was quite the talk of the salon this week. Except when I was around. Obviously, I wasn't invited and nor did I want to be. But the whole thing of it is that the 2 girls I work with that are so upset by things that I said to their faces have created an alliance and talk behind my back. In case you didn't know, I am 27 years old and extremely toooooo old for this.
Now the wonderful thing from this month after all my bitching! Andi Scarbrough. She is the most amazing individual I have ever met. I have counted on her more times than I care to mention this month to carry me through, to lift my head up and to keep me going. She delivered the best news ever this month when she told me that her boss in LA for sure wants to hire me at the salon. In January, I am flying into LA and Andi, myself and one other girl are road tripping to Vegas for a 3 day training, then road tripping back and staying with Andi for a few extra days. During these days, I'm going to be hanging out at the salon and getting a feel for everything and securing my position at the salon. Andi has given me my motto for the salon until I get out to LA. "Head Down, Make Money, Fuck these Bitches" This is exactly what I need to do! Focus on my clients and save all my money.
As I move forward, I want to forget my past mistakes and become the person and stylist I have always wanted to be. Flaws and all! Undamaged, Uninjured, Unharmed, Unbroken, unhurt, unwounded, unbruised and restored.
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Sunday, September 18, 2011
To Date or Not To Date
It has been a little over 3 months since Adam and I broke up and many of my friends, family and clients are wondering if/when I am going to start dating again. So I decided I would make a list of criteria that anyone I date has to meet. And let's be honest, life is too short to waste time on someone that isn't going to work in the long run. So here it goes. (This list is not in any particular order, just how it comes to mind)
1. He is single (who would have thought you actually have to make this a criteria)
2. He is funny/ has a good sense of humor
3. Appreciates my sense of humor
4. He has a nice smile (sounds shallow but it's important)
5. He cares about the way he looks/dresses
6. Loves his job/career (yes they are different)
7. He is successful
8. He is not narrow-minded
9. He is liberal/ forward-thinking
10. He is spiritual not religious
11. He is self-motivated
12. He is active (enjoys working out/being active)
13. He has a substantial group of friends
14. He is a social person (loves going out to different events)
15. He loves to travel
16. He is not the jealous type (been there done that)
17. His life does not revolve around sports on TV
18. He can sing and/or dance
19. He is not still attached to his Mama's tit (seriously)
20. He does not have children (sorry I don't want any, or the baggage that comes along with them)
21. He loves my friends
After close observation of my list, I realize what I have just described to you is a gay man. So I guess the answer to whether I am going to date again or not is.... I am going to be single for life!
1. He is single (who would have thought you actually have to make this a criteria)
2. He is funny/ has a good sense of humor
3. Appreciates my sense of humor
4. He has a nice smile (sounds shallow but it's important)
5. He cares about the way he looks/dresses
6. Loves his job/career (yes they are different)
7. He is successful
8. He is not narrow-minded
9. He is liberal/ forward-thinking
10. He is spiritual not religious
11. He is self-motivated
12. He is active (enjoys working out/being active)
13. He has a substantial group of friends
14. He is a social person (loves going out to different events)
15. He loves to travel
16. He is not the jealous type (been there done that)
17. His life does not revolve around sports on TV
18. He can sing and/or dance
19. He is not still attached to his Mama's tit (seriously)
20. He does not have children (sorry I don't want any, or the baggage that comes along with them)
21. He loves my friends
After close observation of my list, I realize what I have just described to you is a gay man. So I guess the answer to whether I am going to date again or not is.... I am going to be single for life!
Sunday, August 21, 2011
Why I don't attend church....
I have been meaning to write about this for a long time but have never had the courage to really put it out there although I am sure most of my close friends understand why I feel this way. A lot of things have come up in my life lately that really remind me why I don't have a strong belief in the church anymore and why I have chosen to take a different path.
I will start by saying this is not a slam to those who do believe and chose to go to church, I have just realized it is not me or something I want to be a part of.
Growing up I was in church with my family every Sunday and Wednesday of my life and went to church camp every summer. I believed in God and everything they were saying. Even through my tough teenage years I believed that God was the answer for all my problems. I was always told that God equaled love and no matter what, he would always love you. And as a Christian we were not to judge others. As I grew up and was out on my own in the World, I began to realize that for the most part the "Christians" I knew were some of the most unloving and judge-mental people I had ever met.
I really realized this in the first salon I worked for where the owner talked about how good of a Christian she was all the time but did not have any actions to back it up. She was one of the most horrible people I have ever come across. On a daily basis she would tear down her employees and pray for money. How does that say "Christian".
The more I grew into myself I discovered that I had really liberal beliefs, many of those beliefs are not accepted among Christians. I hang out with and love gay people, I have pre-marital sex, I drink on a regular basis and so on. But to be a part of the church I am told that I need to walk away from these acts. What if I don't want to? What if I feel that is who I really am? I was told that you would love me no matter what but now that "love" seems very conditional. We will love you if you walk away from your "sin".
I feel that Christianity uses a lot of shame to guilt people into being someone else. I feel like I could have lived a much happier life if I would have walked away from that shame a long time ago. Sure, I know that some of the things I have done were "wrong" but what good does it do to hold on to it and constantly have people remind you that you are a sinner?
I want to wake up each day knowing that I am a good person and I can make a difference in someone's life everyday without feeling the shame of "not living a Godly lifestyle".
I will start by saying this is not a slam to those who do believe and chose to go to church, I have just realized it is not me or something I want to be a part of.
Growing up I was in church with my family every Sunday and Wednesday of my life and went to church camp every summer. I believed in God and everything they were saying. Even through my tough teenage years I believed that God was the answer for all my problems. I was always told that God equaled love and no matter what, he would always love you. And as a Christian we were not to judge others. As I grew up and was out on my own in the World, I began to realize that for the most part the "Christians" I knew were some of the most unloving and judge-mental people I had ever met.
I really realized this in the first salon I worked for where the owner talked about how good of a Christian she was all the time but did not have any actions to back it up. She was one of the most horrible people I have ever come across. On a daily basis she would tear down her employees and pray for money. How does that say "Christian".
The more I grew into myself I discovered that I had really liberal beliefs, many of those beliefs are not accepted among Christians. I hang out with and love gay people, I have pre-marital sex, I drink on a regular basis and so on. But to be a part of the church I am told that I need to walk away from these acts. What if I don't want to? What if I feel that is who I really am? I was told that you would love me no matter what but now that "love" seems very conditional. We will love you if you walk away from your "sin".
I feel that Christianity uses a lot of shame to guilt people into being someone else. I feel like I could have lived a much happier life if I would have walked away from that shame a long time ago. Sure, I know that some of the things I have done were "wrong" but what good does it do to hold on to it and constantly have people remind you that you are a sinner?
I want to wake up each day knowing that I am a good person and I can make a difference in someone's life everyday without feeling the shame of "not living a Godly lifestyle".
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Pureology Synergy 2011
I never thought that going to training for 4 days in California would so drastically change my life. I am truly a different person and have a whole new mindset about life! Before I left for LA I was frustrated in every aspect of my life. My newly ended relationship was a very complicated and frustrating situation, my life behind the chair was chaotic, my personal life was struggling because of finances and my life with my family, I feel has always had it's turmoil.
My friend Andi, that I met last year during my orientation picked me up at the airport on Sunday morning and then went to go look at a house she might be buying. (which was super cute) Afterward, we went to Hamburger Mary's for brunch.(They have drag queens as servers! Fun!) I then began to tell Andi how terrible my life has been and how I was ready to move or run away or just start over.(poor girl) She was very encouraging and told me that she thought I was a lot like a snake that is shedding it's skin and that I am just way too big for my skin right now and that maybe I just need to make a plan for what I want and what it is going to take for me to get there.(very sound advice) After brunch, I napped while she got a pedi. Later we started getting ready for our Colour of Pureology Soiree. Andi and I almost had the same dress! Hilarious! (we were called bridesmaids twice... not so hilarious) As the Soiree began, I was trying to make my way around the party talking to all my PureArtist friends that I don't see much and other Artists that I was yet to meet. It was an amazing time! We were given Tiffany's key chains with the Pureology logo on the back! (I almost cried)
On Monday we had our opening session and I can't even begin to describe the energy in the room! Everyone was so inspired and energetic! We learned about the future of Pureology and I am so excited to be a part of such a wonderful company. Our educator for the day was Ruth Roche and she taught us cutting techniques. She was an amazing educator. She is super funny and has the wonderful ability to laugh at herself! (Something I really admire)
That night we had a free night so we thought we would check out the pool even though it wasn't even 70 degrees outside. I initiated a handstand contest in the pool and all around drunken rowdiness. After the pool time several of us went to one of the resort restaurants and have some food and more drinks. Such a wonderful time getting to know some of the other Artists and how they are doing in their career with Pureology and behind the chair. Andi's boss gave us her room at the resort so we were able to stay for the next 2 nights. (amazing)
On Tuesday we had styling class with Wendy Belanger in the morning. I learned a lot of new techniques and can't wait to use them all. In the afternoon, we had a step up class with Michael Cole. That man is a genius! His class changed my life! We talked about our attitudes and how they shape our career. I had a huge Ah-ha moment realizing that maybe the reason I was not successful behind the chair was because I wasn't asking my clients to make me successful anymore. Another thing that was mentioned in our class was "We promote what we permit in our lives." I have allowed a lot of people to make me feel bad about myself in my life. Therefore, I stopped believing in myself and that I am worthy of having a good life. I literally, spent most of the class crying because everything we talked about was so personal to me. I knew that when I left the class that I had hit my rock bottom and that it can only go up from here.
That night we had a team building challenge. There were 12 different clues of where to go around the resort and once we got there, there was some sort of challenge we had to complete. (such as decorating cookies and pizzas, leading team members through mazes and balancing acts) Our team had a cheer and a ton of energy! We ended up winning! That was an amazing experience! The night continued with dinner and lots of drinks. I had a fellow Artist and and L'oreal employee come up to me and tell me what a inspiration I was. I was seriously speechless! Their words were so encouraging to me!
On Wednesday morning (final day), we spent it with Chris Baran. I have looked up to him for a very long time because during my apprenticeship we used his DVD's as training. Also, he was one of the first artists I saw at a show. His class was about how to facilitate a class but more about having the power in our lives.
The closing ceremony was very bittersweet for me because I was leaving inspired and newly motivated for life but I was still scared to return to my everyday life that was very unstable. Overall, The BEST 4 days of my life. My legs hurt from running, handstands and cartwheels, my abs hurt from laughing constantly, my eyes were swollen from lack of sleep and crying and my head hurt from way too much vodka!
I can not wait to see the benefits from this weekend and how it is going to change my life!
My friend Andi, that I met last year during my orientation picked me up at the airport on Sunday morning and then went to go look at a house she might be buying. (which was super cute) Afterward, we went to Hamburger Mary's for brunch.(They have drag queens as servers! Fun!) I then began to tell Andi how terrible my life has been and how I was ready to move or run away or just start over.(poor girl) She was very encouraging and told me that she thought I was a lot like a snake that is shedding it's skin and that I am just way too big for my skin right now and that maybe I just need to make a plan for what I want and what it is going to take for me to get there.(very sound advice) After brunch, I napped while she got a pedi. Later we started getting ready for our Colour of Pureology Soiree. Andi and I almost had the same dress! Hilarious! (we were called bridesmaids twice... not so hilarious) As the Soiree began, I was trying to make my way around the party talking to all my PureArtist friends that I don't see much and other Artists that I was yet to meet. It was an amazing time! We were given Tiffany's key chains with the Pureology logo on the back! (I almost cried)
On Monday we had our opening session and I can't even begin to describe the energy in the room! Everyone was so inspired and energetic! We learned about the future of Pureology and I am so excited to be a part of such a wonderful company. Our educator for the day was Ruth Roche and she taught us cutting techniques. She was an amazing educator. She is super funny and has the wonderful ability to laugh at herself! (Something I really admire)
That night we had a free night so we thought we would check out the pool even though it wasn't even 70 degrees outside. I initiated a handstand contest in the pool and all around drunken rowdiness. After the pool time several of us went to one of the resort restaurants and have some food and more drinks. Such a wonderful time getting to know some of the other Artists and how they are doing in their career with Pureology and behind the chair. Andi's boss gave us her room at the resort so we were able to stay for the next 2 nights. (amazing)
On Tuesday we had styling class with Wendy Belanger in the morning. I learned a lot of new techniques and can't wait to use them all. In the afternoon, we had a step up class with Michael Cole. That man is a genius! His class changed my life! We talked about our attitudes and how they shape our career. I had a huge Ah-ha moment realizing that maybe the reason I was not successful behind the chair was because I wasn't asking my clients to make me successful anymore. Another thing that was mentioned in our class was "We promote what we permit in our lives." I have allowed a lot of people to make me feel bad about myself in my life. Therefore, I stopped believing in myself and that I am worthy of having a good life. I literally, spent most of the class crying because everything we talked about was so personal to me. I knew that when I left the class that I had hit my rock bottom and that it can only go up from here.
That night we had a team building challenge. There were 12 different clues of where to go around the resort and once we got there, there was some sort of challenge we had to complete. (such as decorating cookies and pizzas, leading team members through mazes and balancing acts) Our team had a cheer and a ton of energy! We ended up winning! That was an amazing experience! The night continued with dinner and lots of drinks. I had a fellow Artist and and L'oreal employee come up to me and tell me what a inspiration I was. I was seriously speechless! Their words were so encouraging to me!
On Wednesday morning (final day), we spent it with Chris Baran. I have looked up to him for a very long time because during my apprenticeship we used his DVD's as training. Also, he was one of the first artists I saw at a show. His class was about how to facilitate a class but more about having the power in our lives.
The closing ceremony was very bittersweet for me because I was leaving inspired and newly motivated for life but I was still scared to return to my everyday life that was very unstable. Overall, The BEST 4 days of my life. My legs hurt from running, handstands and cartwheels, my abs hurt from laughing constantly, my eyes were swollen from lack of sleep and crying and my head hurt from way too much vodka!
I can not wait to see the benefits from this weekend and how it is going to change my life!
Monday, July 4, 2011
I'm Single Again
I had the feeling that this was coming. Adam and I relationship has been very hard since the beginning of the year and I really thought it was going to get better. After Adam went through my phone and my facebook a few months back I kinda wondered how much longer we could possibly last. We would have been together for 2 years on the 11th of this month. It was my longest relationship and one that I saw myself staying in for the long run until all of this happen.
About a month ago Adam went through the history of my computer and checked my email and facebook again. I can't even begin to describe how much it hurts to be with someone that doesn't trust you and has no reason not to trust you. I was not cheating on him nor did I have any intentions of cheating on him. After I found out that he had been looking through my stuff again I told him that I was done. He cried, begged and threw a huge fit for me to forgive him. How do you forgive that??? How do you just move on with someone who doesn't trust you? And if you don't trust me after 2 years, will you ever? I have to think no! He said that he was going to get help and he wanted to work through it. So I just kinda avoided things because I was getting ready to leave for Orlando. When I came back things really blew up and he decided he would move out to his parents because he didn't want to be somewhere where "He wasn't loved". We agreed that he could come back to the house to do his homework while I am at work and not to get in each others way. Unfortunately, he hasn't been able to do this. He has been here a lot when I am here and every time I see him, he starts a fight. He has an amazing way of making me feel like the bad person. He says things like "I can't be happy without you",
"It kills me that you don't love me", "It's like you don't even care about me" and "If you want to see me happy then you would just get back with me and work things out". The thing is that I don't want to work things out. I'm sick to death of fighting and feeling like I have to pick him up all the time. I don't want to be responsible for his happiness. I've run out of things to say to him because the only thing he wants to hear from me is that I want to get back together.
I haven't been able to sleep since we broke up because I'm not use to sleeping alone anymore and honestly, I'm terribly worried about him. I care about him and I always will but we don't want the same things and our lives weren't heading in the same direction. I think it's funny that now he is saying that he wants me to be myself, when during our whole relationship he tried to control and censor me constantly. It also scares me to have to date again. I was never good at the whole dating thing. The longest relationship before Adam was a few months and was never serious.
I'm honestly quite relieved to not be in a relationship anymore but I just wish that I could say or do something to help Adam move on and stop making me feel so terrible!
About a month ago Adam went through the history of my computer and checked my email and facebook again. I can't even begin to describe how much it hurts to be with someone that doesn't trust you and has no reason not to trust you. I was not cheating on him nor did I have any intentions of cheating on him. After I found out that he had been looking through my stuff again I told him that I was done. He cried, begged and threw a huge fit for me to forgive him. How do you forgive that??? How do you just move on with someone who doesn't trust you? And if you don't trust me after 2 years, will you ever? I have to think no! He said that he was going to get help and he wanted to work through it. So I just kinda avoided things because I was getting ready to leave for Orlando. When I came back things really blew up and he decided he would move out to his parents because he didn't want to be somewhere where "He wasn't loved". We agreed that he could come back to the house to do his homework while I am at work and not to get in each others way. Unfortunately, he hasn't been able to do this. He has been here a lot when I am here and every time I see him, he starts a fight. He has an amazing way of making me feel like the bad person. He says things like "I can't be happy without you",
"It kills me that you don't love me", "It's like you don't even care about me" and "If you want to see me happy then you would just get back with me and work things out". The thing is that I don't want to work things out. I'm sick to death of fighting and feeling like I have to pick him up all the time. I don't want to be responsible for his happiness. I've run out of things to say to him because the only thing he wants to hear from me is that I want to get back together.
I haven't been able to sleep since we broke up because I'm not use to sleeping alone anymore and honestly, I'm terribly worried about him. I care about him and I always will but we don't want the same things and our lives weren't heading in the same direction. I think it's funny that now he is saying that he wants me to be myself, when during our whole relationship he tried to control and censor me constantly. It also scares me to have to date again. I was never good at the whole dating thing. The longest relationship before Adam was a few months and was never serious.
I'm honestly quite relieved to not be in a relationship anymore but I just wish that I could say or do something to help Adam move on and stop making me feel so terrible!
Friday, June 24, 2011
Premiere Orlando
Premiere Orlando was my first hairshow to work as an Artist for Pureology. I had been talking about how excited I was to go for months with everyone I knew. The first day flying out didn't go without it's excitement. My plane was 45 mins late taking off in KC,at that point I was a little freaked out because I knew I only had an hour between flights once I arrived in Atlanta. When we landed in Atlanta I turned on my phone to see that is was 12:46 and my next flight took off at 1. No way in hell I was going to make it. I came out of the plane to realize I was in terminal D (in the worlds largest airport) and my flight was taking off in terminal A! So I sprinted to the tram then sprinted to my gate. The hands on the clock showed exactly 1 O'clock but the sign said DEPARTED. Seriously???? I have never missed a flight before so I had no clue what to do, I also didn't book my flight so I didn't know if I needed to call someone or what! So I just stand there awhile in disbelief and wait for someone that looks like they might know what I should do. Finally, a nice cleaning lady tells me to go to the service desk. They inform me there that I have been put on stand-by (once again I have no idea what this means because I've never missed a flight) on the 2 O' clock flight. So I go to that gate where the lady ever so politely (not really) tells me to watch the TV screen and if I see my name, I'm flying, if not try the next flight at 3. Eesh I'm exhausted! I wait and watch them let a family of 4 fly stand-by and I think to myself I AM JUST ONE PERSON! JUST LET ME ON! I'm then informed there is no room on the 3 O' clock flight and I won't be flying out til 4. Never mind, that I was suppose to be in Orlando by 3. I had already texted my supervisor and she said it was no problem, just to get there in one piece. While in line for my 4 O'clock flight I met one of Sam Villa's(my idol) artists. She was super nice and she told me how to make my life easier once I got to Orlando. Thank God someone was an experienced flyer! Our flight then sat on the runway for 35 mins. I was really irritated at this point because I was missing all of the set up and meeting everyone. My flight landed at 6:35 and I still had to get my bags and get to the hotel and freshen up all before I meet all of my fellow PureArtists for a meeting at 7. I show up at 7:10 (awkward) and thankfully everyone is still standing around talking. I appologized a million times for being late (although not my fault) and quickly found a seat to be briefed on the weekend. After the meeting, I decided to go have dinner with 6 other Artists that all looked about my age. We ate at an Italian restaurant that served family style. We had more food than I could have ever imagined. We had a great time but we ended up being at the restaurant for close to 3 hours.
The next day was still part of setting up for the show. In our email it said to wear T-shirt and shorts because it would be hot in the convention center. When I met up with everybody, they were all in jeans and cute but casual T's. I felt a little out of place but I tried to not let it bother me. However, it nagged in the back of my head all day! I got to help in the model room a little bit with Shampooing and blowdrying. That was very exciting for me! I loved being able to watch the other Artists at work! That night we decided to keep things pretty low key for dinner and just go down to the pool bar and grill. Since we had $45 a day for for and had yet to spend any of it, we drank the majority of our allowance. It was so much fun!
Sunday we were up bright and early for the show. I worked the sales booth with JoAnna, Gregory and Lindsey. I had been hanging out with them for the last 2 nights and loved all of them so I knew it would be a great time! The show was absolutely crazy. There were 50,000 hairstylists expected to attend. Our booth was surrounded by stages and the people watching whatever performances were going on at the time. CRAZY!!!! Plus, I got to spend much of my day chasing off divertors. A divertor is someone who is not a licensed cosmetologist who is purchasing professional product to sell it to the black market, from there it ends up on the shelves at CVS, Target, Wal-Mart, Walgreens and so on. This product doesn't even have to contain the right ingredients and is often tampered with. And not to stereo type but most of the divertors were Middle Eastern men and women with Iphones. They didn't know anything about the products, just had lists on their phone that they had to purchase. Many of them changed their clothes 3-5 times that day to try to come back to our booth and purchase. This was extremely discouraging to me. I felt so helpless that we had to sell to these people at least once and all our product was getting out to the black market. I don't think I sat for more than 10 minutes the whole day and I was wore out. However, that night we had a benefit at BB King's for Redken and Pureology and it was free food and Open Bar! (Who would miss that?) So we went and got pretty tipsy and had a really good time! We also went to a Greek restaurant after we left and had more to eat and drink!
The final day was very bittersweet! I was having a great time but I was also very exhausted! We weren't nearly as busy the 2nd day and I pretty much promoted myself to the diversion police. I repeatedly took products out of the hands of divertors. Once the show came to an end, I had to immediately get my bags and get in a cab and to the airport. I didn't realize how tired I really was until I sat down on the plane and my whole body hurt.
Overall, it was a wonderful experience and met some wonderful people. I will get to see all of them soon when I am in LA in July for our yearly training! I can not wait! I also can't wait to work another hairshow, whenever that will be!
The next day was still part of setting up for the show. In our email it said to wear T-shirt and shorts because it would be hot in the convention center. When I met up with everybody, they were all in jeans and cute but casual T's. I felt a little out of place but I tried to not let it bother me. However, it nagged in the back of my head all day! I got to help in the model room a little bit with Shampooing and blowdrying. That was very exciting for me! I loved being able to watch the other Artists at work! That night we decided to keep things pretty low key for dinner and just go down to the pool bar and grill. Since we had $45 a day for for and had yet to spend any of it, we drank the majority of our allowance. It was so much fun!
Sunday we were up bright and early for the show. I worked the sales booth with JoAnna, Gregory and Lindsey. I had been hanging out with them for the last 2 nights and loved all of them so I knew it would be a great time! The show was absolutely crazy. There were 50,000 hairstylists expected to attend. Our booth was surrounded by stages and the people watching whatever performances were going on at the time. CRAZY!!!! Plus, I got to spend much of my day chasing off divertors. A divertor is someone who is not a licensed cosmetologist who is purchasing professional product to sell it to the black market, from there it ends up on the shelves at CVS, Target, Wal-Mart, Walgreens and so on. This product doesn't even have to contain the right ingredients and is often tampered with. And not to stereo type but most of the divertors were Middle Eastern men and women with Iphones. They didn't know anything about the products, just had lists on their phone that they had to purchase. Many of them changed their clothes 3-5 times that day to try to come back to our booth and purchase. This was extremely discouraging to me. I felt so helpless that we had to sell to these people at least once and all our product was getting out to the black market. I don't think I sat for more than 10 minutes the whole day and I was wore out. However, that night we had a benefit at BB King's for Redken and Pureology and it was free food and Open Bar! (Who would miss that?) So we went and got pretty tipsy and had a really good time! We also went to a Greek restaurant after we left and had more to eat and drink!
The final day was very bittersweet! I was having a great time but I was also very exhausted! We weren't nearly as busy the 2nd day and I pretty much promoted myself to the diversion police. I repeatedly took products out of the hands of divertors. Once the show came to an end, I had to immediately get my bags and get in a cab and to the airport. I didn't realize how tired I really was until I sat down on the plane and my whole body hurt.
Overall, it was a wonderful experience and met some wonderful people. I will get to see all of them soon when I am in LA in July for our yearly training! I can not wait! I also can't wait to work another hairshow, whenever that will be!
Friday, April 15, 2011
The Joys of Relationships!
Adam and I have been together now for almost 2 years. This is the longest relationship I have ever been in. Although, I'm not sure you can call any of my past experiences with men a "relationship". I like to think of them more as "I like you, I hope you like me but I will just stick around until you figure out you don't" relationships. For some reason, Adam doesn't understand that my past experiences with "relationships" weren't exactly positive ones!
Adam and I have definitely had our ups and downs in our relationship but for the most part I think more ups than downs. However, since the first of the year our relationship has been one big struggle fest! I'm not really sure if it is us that is making out relationship hard or if it is our surroundings. As I mentioned before, Adam hates his job so he is going back to school starting this summer. Unfortunately, he is just now training the guy that is replacing him. So even though he made the decision that he didn't want to still keep doing what he is doing back in Feb., he has had no choice. And luckily for me, he is still in the same sour, tired mood all the time.
Since I decided to quit my part time job and only work at the salon 3 1/2 days a week, I am super broke. I feel like I can't do anything or buy the things I want or need at all because I have no money. Needless to say this has left me a little stressed out.
Adam for some reason thought that since I have been less than affectionate lately, that I was cheating on him!!!! What???? And instead of asking me why I wasn't affectionate, he decided to go through all my text messages on my phone and log into my facebook and check all my messages. (Side note: in case you didn't know, all your chats now show up in your inbox.) What he found wasn't bad, but in his eyes, it wasn't good. I still chat with a few of my exes from time to time and a guy that I have known for a while that always hits on me. This means nothing to me, I am not attracted to any of them, I don't want to be in a relationship with any of them, so I don't take anything they might say that is inappropriate seriously. However, Adam took it very seriously. He really thought that I was having a relationship with one of them. This all came about on a Sunday afternoon. We literally fought all day long. The next day I thought I would get a little time to myself, think it all through since I had the day off. But instead, Adam decided to call into work. He said the reason was because he didn't get much sleep. I personally think, he stayed home to babysit me. So again, all day long we fought!!!
Tuesday night, I called my sister for advice. Thank God she is married and has had several long term relationships that didn't work out! She suggested that Adam and I both write our feelings down and then after we were done have the other person read them through twice. Once for our head and once for our heart. So when I got home from work, Adam and I did just that. What it boiled down to is Adam's jealousy and how our relationship is never going to work unless he learns to trust me. I don't think he realized how much I felt like he was controlling my life because he has severe trust issues that aren't my fault. After talking it out that night, things are getting better. Of course, I am skeptical on how long it will be before he freaks out like that again! And then I am faced with the decision do I or don't I change all my passwords? If I don't, he will surely snoop again (not that I have anything to hide but it's my stuff) and if I do will he think I am hiding something?
Adam and I have definitely had our ups and downs in our relationship but for the most part I think more ups than downs. However, since the first of the year our relationship has been one big struggle fest! I'm not really sure if it is us that is making out relationship hard or if it is our surroundings. As I mentioned before, Adam hates his job so he is going back to school starting this summer. Unfortunately, he is just now training the guy that is replacing him. So even though he made the decision that he didn't want to still keep doing what he is doing back in Feb., he has had no choice. And luckily for me, he is still in the same sour, tired mood all the time.
Since I decided to quit my part time job and only work at the salon 3 1/2 days a week, I am super broke. I feel like I can't do anything or buy the things I want or need at all because I have no money. Needless to say this has left me a little stressed out.
Adam for some reason thought that since I have been less than affectionate lately, that I was cheating on him!!!! What???? And instead of asking me why I wasn't affectionate, he decided to go through all my text messages on my phone and log into my facebook and check all my messages. (Side note: in case you didn't know, all your chats now show up in your inbox.) What he found wasn't bad, but in his eyes, it wasn't good. I still chat with a few of my exes from time to time and a guy that I have known for a while that always hits on me. This means nothing to me, I am not attracted to any of them, I don't want to be in a relationship with any of them, so I don't take anything they might say that is inappropriate seriously. However, Adam took it very seriously. He really thought that I was having a relationship with one of them. This all came about on a Sunday afternoon. We literally fought all day long. The next day I thought I would get a little time to myself, think it all through since I had the day off. But instead, Adam decided to call into work. He said the reason was because he didn't get much sleep. I personally think, he stayed home to babysit me. So again, all day long we fought!!!
Tuesday night, I called my sister for advice. Thank God she is married and has had several long term relationships that didn't work out! She suggested that Adam and I both write our feelings down and then after we were done have the other person read them through twice. Once for our head and once for our heart. So when I got home from work, Adam and I did just that. What it boiled down to is Adam's jealousy and how our relationship is never going to work unless he learns to trust me. I don't think he realized how much I felt like he was controlling my life because he has severe trust issues that aren't my fault. After talking it out that night, things are getting better. Of course, I am skeptical on how long it will be before he freaks out like that again! And then I am faced with the decision do I or don't I change all my passwords? If I don't, he will surely snoop again (not that I have anything to hide but it's my stuff) and if I do will he think I am hiding something?
Friday, April 1, 2011
Being the Bigger Person
This last week has been a very trying week for me. I did something that I don't really regret but at the same time didn't think it would cause as much of a stir as what it did.
So here it goes, a week ago Thursday I erased one of the girls I work with boyfriend's interview off of the salon calender. To most of you this sounds stupid and petty and it was. But what you should know is this girl has been stupid, rude and petty to me since the day I started at the salon. So I did this with full intention of making her feel how I feel on a regular basis. I knew if would ruffle her feathers but I didn't think the whole salon would get involved. On Friday(my day off) the girl decided to blame one of my coworkers for doing it and made her cry then wrote on the calendar
"Don't be jealous because you suck". Another coworker texted me to ask me if I erased it and I neither confirmed nor denied. I just said maybe she will learn her lesson.
So by the time I got to work on Saturday everyone was against me, talking about me and made me feel very uncomfortable. In fact, I was told that said girl and her friend were going to beat me up after work. I texted my manager after work to give her a heads up as to what had been going on because she was on vacation and she said she would take care of it. I was ready to quit and just be done with the place at this point.
Then Monday, I get a 7 page text from my manager filled with lies that my coworkers had told her about me as to why no one likes me and that it is my fault. My body was literally shaking uncontrollably. I was so freaking mad! I emailed her and my boss telling them what has really been going on. I was basically told by my manager to "Be the bigger person" and not get involved.
I feel like in my situation this is easier said than done. I am not just going to roll over and let people treat me like shit! I am also not going to tattle-tale on them every time they are rude to me. (Which is everyday) How do you be the bigger person when someone goes out of their way to make me feel uncomfortable every time I am around???
I moved to this salon because of my opportunities to educate for Pureology and now that I am educating for them I feel like I should be a great asset to the salon, but if they don't see me that way, am I really???
I love what I do and I would love to be in an environment where I can do what I love as well as love to be there.
So here it goes, a week ago Thursday I erased one of the girls I work with boyfriend's interview off of the salon calender. To most of you this sounds stupid and petty and it was. But what you should know is this girl has been stupid, rude and petty to me since the day I started at the salon. So I did this with full intention of making her feel how I feel on a regular basis. I knew if would ruffle her feathers but I didn't think the whole salon would get involved. On Friday(my day off) the girl decided to blame one of my coworkers for doing it and made her cry then wrote on the calendar
"Don't be jealous because you suck". Another coworker texted me to ask me if I erased it and I neither confirmed nor denied. I just said maybe she will learn her lesson.
So by the time I got to work on Saturday everyone was against me, talking about me and made me feel very uncomfortable. In fact, I was told that said girl and her friend were going to beat me up after work. I texted my manager after work to give her a heads up as to what had been going on because she was on vacation and she said she would take care of it. I was ready to quit and just be done with the place at this point.
Then Monday, I get a 7 page text from my manager filled with lies that my coworkers had told her about me as to why no one likes me and that it is my fault. My body was literally shaking uncontrollably. I was so freaking mad! I emailed her and my boss telling them what has really been going on. I was basically told by my manager to "Be the bigger person" and not get involved.
I feel like in my situation this is easier said than done. I am not just going to roll over and let people treat me like shit! I am also not going to tattle-tale on them every time they are rude to me. (Which is everyday) How do you be the bigger person when someone goes out of their way to make me feel uncomfortable every time I am around???
I moved to this salon because of my opportunities to educate for Pureology and now that I am educating for them I feel like I should be a great asset to the salon, but if they don't see me that way, am I really???
I love what I do and I would love to be in an environment where I can do what I love as well as love to be there.
Monday, March 21, 2011
Your words become your actions
"Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny."
-Gandhi
I'm not really sure how to begin this blog other than this quote has been on my mind a lot lately. It is incredible to me how we can let others control our destiny. When I was growing up, I heard someone say that I was fat or ugly almost every single day of my life. I began to believe and think I was fat and ugly, then I began to say I was fat and ugly, slowly (in my mind) I became fat and ugly. How unfortunate is it that I had to grow up believing this? Not only did I believe that but I lived my life accordingly.
For so long I have let what others think about me hold me back from my dreams and happiness.
This last week, I decided I was no longer going to believe what others have said about me. Instead, repeat to myself "I am beautiful, I am talented, I am successful, I am lovable, and I am healthy."
Not everyday is going to be perfect and I am not always going to feel this way about myself but I can only hope that those around me will see the change. Your words really do become your actions!
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny."
-Gandhi
I'm not really sure how to begin this blog other than this quote has been on my mind a lot lately. It is incredible to me how we can let others control our destiny. When I was growing up, I heard someone say that I was fat or ugly almost every single day of my life. I began to believe and think I was fat and ugly, then I began to say I was fat and ugly, slowly (in my mind) I became fat and ugly. How unfortunate is it that I had to grow up believing this? Not only did I believe that but I lived my life accordingly.
For so long I have let what others think about me hold me back from my dreams and happiness.
This last week, I decided I was no longer going to believe what others have said about me. Instead, repeat to myself "I am beautiful, I am talented, I am successful, I am lovable, and I am healthy."
Not everyday is going to be perfect and I am not always going to feel this way about myself but I can only hope that those around me will see the change. Your words really do become your actions!
Monday, March 14, 2011
In a generation full of slackers....
On Friday, it was my privilege to attend Adam's Grandpa's funeral with him. In most occasion, I would not consider attending a funeral a privilege. However, on this occasion, it truly was. The message touched me very deep and is the reason for this blog. The message was about work. Not just work but hard work. Adam's Grandpa was 92 years old and when the pastor asked friends and family how they would sum him up, everyone mentioned what a hard worker he had been his entire life. Many of us can not even begin to imagine what it would be like to provide for a family of 7 in the depression days. Most of us have no idea what it is like to work for everything we have now.
In a generation full of slackers, I am so thankful that I have been given a strong work ethic. I began working when I was 14 years old. I waited tables for the first part of my Freshman year of high school. Later that year I started working at Dairy Queen close to 20 hours a week. I worked at Dairy Queen (not the same one since we had a tornado that destroyed ours my Sophomore year) all through high school. The main reason I worked was because I wanted to take Dance and Voice lessons and my parents could not afford to pay for it for me. I also bought all my own clothes, shoes, put gas in my car and paid for any other activity I wanted to be a part of.
I have never been handed anything. I am very proud of the fact that everything I have is mine. I do not have any credit card debt or owe anyone money. And though I do not have new clothes every season or have all new furniture or a brand new car, I am satisfied. What I do have is my strong work ethic, love and passion for the career I have chosen. I have no doubt that someday all of these things will pay off and I won't owe anyone anything except for maybe my parents for not raising a slacker!
In a generation full of slackers, I am so thankful that I have been given a strong work ethic. I began working when I was 14 years old. I waited tables for the first part of my Freshman year of high school. Later that year I started working at Dairy Queen close to 20 hours a week. I worked at Dairy Queen (not the same one since we had a tornado that destroyed ours my Sophomore year) all through high school. The main reason I worked was because I wanted to take Dance and Voice lessons and my parents could not afford to pay for it for me. I also bought all my own clothes, shoes, put gas in my car and paid for any other activity I wanted to be a part of.
I have never been handed anything. I am very proud of the fact that everything I have is mine. I do not have any credit card debt or owe anyone money. And though I do not have new clothes every season or have all new furniture or a brand new car, I am satisfied. What I do have is my strong work ethic, love and passion for the career I have chosen. I have no doubt that someday all of these things will pay off and I won't owe anyone anything except for maybe my parents for not raising a slacker!
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Oh Life!
I am really going to try to be better about blogging on a more regular basis and now that I have more time, I plan to do so.
Get ready to go on a roller coaster ride because that is what this last month of my life has been.
It all starts with at the end of January Adam and I's relationship hit a tough spot. He has been driving the delivery truck at his work since the beginning of November and since then has been completely miserable. He hates his job and everyday he comes home and complains about how much he hates it and his boss. Well I had about all I could take so we had to have a little "Come to Jesus" about it. I basically told him either you are going to have to learn to love your job, get a new job or find a new girlfriend because this is not working for me. And as any smart man would do, he quickly decided that he would take some time to figure out what he wanted to do with the rest of his life and mainly not be miserable anymore.
The first part of February we got a new manager and a new full time employee at my part time job Peels. The new manager is a 21 year old guy with no management experience and lives with his parents (who happen to be good friends with the Peels). I wonder how he got the job??? The new full time employee is a 40 year old emotionally unstable dim-wit. Shortly after the two of them were hired, I thought to myself, I am not going to last here much longer. Two weeks go by and I want to hang myself in the backroom everyday that I am there. The manager is overly egotistical for no apparent reason and a bit of a liar and the full time lady is STUPID! The store is a mess and things aren't being ordered like they should or run like they should. I am trying to keep my opinions to myself but if you know me very well, I am not very good at that. On Monday the 14th I was told that Peels was lengthening their hours starting that day, Monday and Wednesday 8-7 and Saturday 8-2. I told the manager, I am already working 52 hours a week and I am not picking up anymore hours and I am not giving away anymore of my nights, sorry but it's not going to happen. Also, I need someone to work from 12-2 for me on Saturday because I already have clients starting at 12:30. He said he would try to work something out. When I came in on Wednesday I asked who was working Saturday for me and he said you are. I said no, my job at the salon comes first and that if someone wasn't there I was locking the doors and leaving at noon. He then made some bull shit threat that if I didn't stay that the regional manager wouldn't let me work the PureOlogy booth at that spring show that had already been promised to me. I then told him I was going to email the regional manager and would see what she had to say about that. Later that day we had to have a conference call with the regional manager(who is the sister of my old manager that I didn't like at all)She basically told me that if I wasn't "willing" to work the new hours that maybe it was time I part ways with Peels. I was so pissed! How can anyone just let your only employee that knows what they are doing leave because she is not willing to work 4 more hours in a week. What a bunch of idiots. I later emailed the head of the company and told him what a big mistake they were making. I told my manager that I would be giving my two weeks on Friday.
Meanwhile, Adam has decided that he is going to go down to part time at his job and not drive anymore and go back to school to be a registered dietitian. He is going to have to take a few classes this summer then enroll at K-State in the fall. After he completes that program he will do is masters at KU med in Kansas City.
The next morning at 6:55 am I got a call from my sister, my brother in law was being life flighted to KU med for what they assumed to be bacterial meningitis. I told her anything I could do for her I would. I didn't know how I could help, she didn't know how I could help and it was just a mess. One of her Mother in law's friends ended up driving her up there with Kylen. Soon after she got there it became quite apparent that Kris' condition was not good. He had and infection in his brain and blood and was not responding at all and was septic. Through the day Kris just kept getting worse and worse. He was fighting the nurses and trying to pull out his IV's, he didn't understand why he was there or where he was. He didn't know who my sister or his Mom was. His life was in serious danger and I wanted to be with my sister but couldn't because I had clients and didn't know how I could help. I decided I would take friday off to help her with Kylen. Friday morning, Kris was talking again but slowly and knew and understood where he was at and what had happened! These were all great signs because the Dr didn't know if he would ever come out of it because of how bad he was by the time he got there. I took Kylen home with me that night so Melissa and Kylen could both get some rest. Melissa had never been away from Kylen for a whole night so that was very hard for her on top of all the other stress. He wasn't a very happy camper when he first got to my place but finally settled in on my dad's chest in the recliner and that is where they stayed all night! Kris got out of ICU on Saturday and out of the hospital on Thursday. The whole time was very stressful for our families and we are very thankful for his recovery and that he is going to be okay!
Friday was my last day at Peels and it was very bittersweet. I am glad to be leaving because I don't think I could handle working with the two employees that are there now but I am sad because I can't really afford not to have that job and I have built some pretty good relationships with our customers. I have had many complaints in my last two weeks about the other two and that I should stay because they don't know what they are doing. I encouraged the customers to share that with someone above me, because there is nothing I can do about it. I am very nervous of what this month is going to bring. The salon has been slow for me and I still need to figure out what I owe for taxes this year and pay for the tags on my car. I have no idea how I am going to do that, I guess just have faith that it will work out!!!
The good news is that I shadowed my first class with Pureology and I was released to teach my own classes now! Also, I was asked to work a show in Orlando, FL in June! I am so excited for that! The diet and work out plan started today so I look amazing in a bikini by then and for LA in July. Surely, everything is going to work out!!!!
Get ready to go on a roller coaster ride because that is what this last month of my life has been.
It all starts with at the end of January Adam and I's relationship hit a tough spot. He has been driving the delivery truck at his work since the beginning of November and since then has been completely miserable. He hates his job and everyday he comes home and complains about how much he hates it and his boss. Well I had about all I could take so we had to have a little "Come to Jesus" about it. I basically told him either you are going to have to learn to love your job, get a new job or find a new girlfriend because this is not working for me. And as any smart man would do, he quickly decided that he would take some time to figure out what he wanted to do with the rest of his life and mainly not be miserable anymore.
The first part of February we got a new manager and a new full time employee at my part time job Peels. The new manager is a 21 year old guy with no management experience and lives with his parents (who happen to be good friends with the Peels). I wonder how he got the job??? The new full time employee is a 40 year old emotionally unstable dim-wit. Shortly after the two of them were hired, I thought to myself, I am not going to last here much longer. Two weeks go by and I want to hang myself in the backroom everyday that I am there. The manager is overly egotistical for no apparent reason and a bit of a liar and the full time lady is STUPID! The store is a mess and things aren't being ordered like they should or run like they should. I am trying to keep my opinions to myself but if you know me very well, I am not very good at that. On Monday the 14th I was told that Peels was lengthening their hours starting that day, Monday and Wednesday 8-7 and Saturday 8-2. I told the manager, I am already working 52 hours a week and I am not picking up anymore hours and I am not giving away anymore of my nights, sorry but it's not going to happen. Also, I need someone to work from 12-2 for me on Saturday because I already have clients starting at 12:30. He said he would try to work something out. When I came in on Wednesday I asked who was working Saturday for me and he said you are. I said no, my job at the salon comes first and that if someone wasn't there I was locking the doors and leaving at noon. He then made some bull shit threat that if I didn't stay that the regional manager wouldn't let me work the PureOlogy booth at that spring show that had already been promised to me. I then told him I was going to email the regional manager and would see what she had to say about that. Later that day we had to have a conference call with the regional manager(who is the sister of my old manager that I didn't like at all)She basically told me that if I wasn't "willing" to work the new hours that maybe it was time I part ways with Peels. I was so pissed! How can anyone just let your only employee that knows what they are doing leave because she is not willing to work 4 more hours in a week. What a bunch of idiots. I later emailed the head of the company and told him what a big mistake they were making. I told my manager that I would be giving my two weeks on Friday.
Meanwhile, Adam has decided that he is going to go down to part time at his job and not drive anymore and go back to school to be a registered dietitian. He is going to have to take a few classes this summer then enroll at K-State in the fall. After he completes that program he will do is masters at KU med in Kansas City.
The next morning at 6:55 am I got a call from my sister, my brother in law was being life flighted to KU med for what they assumed to be bacterial meningitis. I told her anything I could do for her I would. I didn't know how I could help, she didn't know how I could help and it was just a mess. One of her Mother in law's friends ended up driving her up there with Kylen. Soon after she got there it became quite apparent that Kris' condition was not good. He had and infection in his brain and blood and was not responding at all and was septic. Through the day Kris just kept getting worse and worse. He was fighting the nurses and trying to pull out his IV's, he didn't understand why he was there or where he was. He didn't know who my sister or his Mom was. His life was in serious danger and I wanted to be with my sister but couldn't because I had clients and didn't know how I could help. I decided I would take friday off to help her with Kylen. Friday morning, Kris was talking again but slowly and knew and understood where he was at and what had happened! These were all great signs because the Dr didn't know if he would ever come out of it because of how bad he was by the time he got there. I took Kylen home with me that night so Melissa and Kylen could both get some rest. Melissa had never been away from Kylen for a whole night so that was very hard for her on top of all the other stress. He wasn't a very happy camper when he first got to my place but finally settled in on my dad's chest in the recliner and that is where they stayed all night! Kris got out of ICU on Saturday and out of the hospital on Thursday. The whole time was very stressful for our families and we are very thankful for his recovery and that he is going to be okay!
Friday was my last day at Peels and it was very bittersweet. I am glad to be leaving because I don't think I could handle working with the two employees that are there now but I am sad because I can't really afford not to have that job and I have built some pretty good relationships with our customers. I have had many complaints in my last two weeks about the other two and that I should stay because they don't know what they are doing. I encouraged the customers to share that with someone above me, because there is nothing I can do about it. I am very nervous of what this month is going to bring. The salon has been slow for me and I still need to figure out what I owe for taxes this year and pay for the tags on my car. I have no idea how I am going to do that, I guess just have faith that it will work out!!!
The good news is that I shadowed my first class with Pureology and I was released to teach my own classes now! Also, I was asked to work a show in Orlando, FL in June! I am so excited for that! The diet and work out plan started today so I look amazing in a bikini by then and for LA in July. Surely, everything is going to work out!!!!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
I think I have reached that point in life where people just expect certain things from me, such as being married, having children, looking to buy my own house and so on. I guess I should feel disappointed that I have accomplished none of the above. However, I don't want any of the above for my life right now.
I find it rather annoying that so many people settle for what they "should" do in their lives as oppose to what they "want" in their lives. There are so many people my age that have absolutely no idea where they want their lives to go. Or maybe they do but they don't have to motivation, passion or drive to get there. It is not selfish to have dreams for yourself and do anything it takes to get there.
When a young couple tells me that they are engaged or having a baby it is all I can do to tell them "DON'T DO IT!!!" "LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU!!!"
I guess there probably really are people who have no other aspirations but to be a stay at home mom, but for me that sounds like complete torture. I have no desire to have children, to give up my dreams to live a life that someone else thinks I "should" live. When I tell people I don't want children I always hear "you will change your mind" HEY PEOPLE, I'm 26. I have a mind of my own, I'm independent, and I know what I want. I want to be successful in my career. Many people don't understand what that means for me. They think it's just standing behind my chair and cutting some hair. No, that is not at all what I want! I want to be the best. I want to travel with PureOlogy to educate and inspire other hairstylists!
It is unfortunate that in 2011, part of society still sees a 26 year old woman as unsuccessful because she is not married and doesn't have kids. I thank my lucky stars everyday that I am not stuck in an unhappy marriage and that I am not raising children I am not ready to have. Call me crazy but there it is.... Just because you can, doesn't mean you should!
I find it rather annoying that so many people settle for what they "should" do in their lives as oppose to what they "want" in their lives. There are so many people my age that have absolutely no idea where they want their lives to go. Or maybe they do but they don't have to motivation, passion or drive to get there. It is not selfish to have dreams for yourself and do anything it takes to get there.
When a young couple tells me that they are engaged or having a baby it is all I can do to tell them "DON'T DO IT!!!" "LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU!!!"
I guess there probably really are people who have no other aspirations but to be a stay at home mom, but for me that sounds like complete torture. I have no desire to have children, to give up my dreams to live a life that someone else thinks I "should" live. When I tell people I don't want children I always hear "you will change your mind" HEY PEOPLE, I'm 26. I have a mind of my own, I'm independent, and I know what I want. I want to be successful in my career. Many people don't understand what that means for me. They think it's just standing behind my chair and cutting some hair. No, that is not at all what I want! I want to be the best. I want to travel with PureOlogy to educate and inspire other hairstylists!
It is unfortunate that in 2011, part of society still sees a 26 year old woman as unsuccessful because she is not married and doesn't have kids. I thank my lucky stars everyday that I am not stuck in an unhappy marriage and that I am not raising children I am not ready to have. Call me crazy but there it is.... Just because you can, doesn't mean you should!
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